After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
“What’s wrong, are you well,” she asked?
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.
“I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you,” I responded.
“Just the two of us.”
She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up.
I was a bit nervous.
When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date.
She waited in the door with her coat on.
She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.
“I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car.
“They can’t wait to hear about our meeting”.
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.
My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.
After we sat down, I had to read the menu.
Large print.
Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me.
A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said.
“Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favour,” I responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other’s life.
We talked so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.
“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home.
“Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack.
It happened so suddenly that I did to do anything for her.
Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.
An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. Iwasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”
At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU!” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.
Nothing in life is more important than God and your family.
Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.
Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a parent.
Here’s hoping today is better than yesterday and tomorrow.
Once upon a time a tortoise and a hare had an argument about who was faster.
They decided to settle the argument with a race.
They agreed on a route and started off the race.
The hare shot ahead and ran briskly for some time.
Then seeing that he was far ahead of the tortoise, he thought he’d sit under a tree for some time and relax before continuing the race.
He sat under the tree and soon fell asleep.
The tortoise plodding on overtook him and soon finished the race, emerging as the undisputed champ.
The hare woke up and realized that he’d lost the race.
The moral of the story is that slow and steady wins the race.
This is the version of the story that we’ve all grown up with.
But then recently, someone told me a more interesting version of this story.
It continues…
The hare was disappointed at losing the race and he did some soul-searching.
He realized that he’d lost the race only because he had been overconfident, careless and lax.
If he had not taken things for granted, there’s no way the tortoise could have beaten him.
So he challenged the tortoise to another race.
The tortoise agreed.
This time, the hare went all out and ran without stopping from start to finish.
He won by several miles.
The moral of the story?
Fast and consistent will always beat the slow and steady.
If you have two people in your organization, one slow, methodical and reliable, and the other fast and still reliable at what he does, the fast and reliable chap will consistently climb the organizational ladder faster than the slow, methodical chap.
It’s good to be slow and steady; but it’s better to be fast and reliable.
But the story doesn’t end here.
The tortoise did some thinking this time and realized that there’s no way he can beat the hare in a race the way it was currently formatted.
He thought for a while, and then challenged the hare to another race, but on a slightly different route.
The hare agreed.
They started off.
In keeping with his self-made commitment to be consistently fast, the hare took off and ran at top speed until he came to a broad river.
The finishing line was a couple of kilometers on the other side of the river.
The hare sat there wondering what to do.
In the meantime the tortoise trundled along, got into the river, swam to the opposite bank, continued walking and finished the race.
The moral of the story?
First identify your core competency and then change the playing field to suit your core competency.
The story still hasn’t ended.
The hare and the tortoise, by this time, had become pretty good friends and they did some thinking together.
Both realized that the last race could have been run much better.
So they decided to do the last race again, but to run as a team this time.
They started off, and this time the hare carried the tortoise till the riverbank.
There, the tortoise took over and swam across with the hare on his back.
On the opposite bank, the hare again carried the tortoise and they reached the finishing line together.
They both felt a greater sense of satisfaction than they’d felt earlier.
The moral of the story?
It’s good to be individually brilliant and to have strong core competencies; but unless you’re able to work in a team and harness each other’s core competencies, you’ll always perform below par because there will always be situations at which you’ll do poorly and someone else does well.
Teamwork is mainly about situational leadership, letting the person with the relevant core competency for a situation take leadership.
There are more lessons to be learnt from this story.
Note that neither the hare nor the tortoise gave up after failures.
The hare decided to work harder and put in more effort after his failure.
The tortoise changed his strategy because he was already working as hard as he could.
In life, when faced with failure, sometimes it is appropriate to work harder and put in more effort. Sometimes it is appropriate to change strategy and try something different.
And sometimes it is appropriate to do both.
The hare and the tortoise also learnt another vital lesson.
When we stop competing against a rival and instead start competing against the situation,
we perform far better.
When Roberto Goizueta took over as CEO of Coca-Cola in the 1980s, he was faced with intense competition from Pepsi that was eating into Coke’s growth.
His executives were Pepsi-focussed and intent on increasing market share 0.1 per cent a time.
Goizueta decided to stop competing against Pepsi and instead compete against the situation of 0.1 per cent growth.
He asked his executives what was the average fluid intake of an American per day?
The answer was 14 ounces.
What was Coke’s share of that?
Two ounces.
Goizueta said Coke needed a larger share of that market.
The competition wasn’t Pepsi.
It was the water, tea, coffee, milk and fruit juices that went into the remaining 12 ounces.
The public should reach for a Coke whenever they felt like drinking something.
To this end, Coke put up vending machines at every street corner.
Sales took a Quantum jump and Pepsi has never quite caught up since.
To sum up, the story of the hare and tortoise teaches us many things.
Chief among them are that fast and consistent will always beat slow and steady; work to your competencies; pooling resources and working as a team will always beat individual performers; never give up when faced with failure; and finally, compete against the situation — not against a rival.
Cheerz!!!
