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Life is Short but Beautiful…

Today is Eid Aidil Adha Celebration & also the end of 2006

It reminds me for my days when I did my Hajj in 2001.

It was Enlightening & Beautiful…

I hope to be there again Insya’ALLAH [With GOD’s Will]

It also reminds me of my late friend’s dad.

He passed away peacefully this year.

Then I have not known nor recognised his dad’s face.

But based on the given dad’s name & the hotel he was staying, I found my way to meet him in Makkah.

Alhamdulillah [Thank GOD], he was so friendly to me & we became close friend…

We met again in Madinah & back in Singapore…

I lost my beloved dad in 89 suddenly due to heart attack at the age of 53 & forced to be the Breadwinner in the family since then…

But having my friend’s dad as my mentor truly helped me in the journey of my life…

Sadly, he left me earlier to meet the Almighty…

Life is Short but Beautiful…

To those who still have Dad & Mum, please appreciate them…

Visit them regularly as we never know that the short moments you have with them will be the last ones….

As I can recollect some wise sayings…

If I were to leave my job suddenly, they can find a replacement easily,

But if I were to leave this world suddenly, my mum & family will never find a replacement in me…

Lastly, I truly LoVe & Appreciate my Beloved mum…

To ALL My Muslim Friends..
Eid 1427H Aidil Adha Mubarak

To the rest,
Have a Blessed 2007

May ALL Our Wishes come true

Take care & GOD Bless…

Life is Beautiful…

Just me,
aLi

ali@adventurerali.com
“Probably, the most travelled Malay Individual in the world…”

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Who is aLi?
The Backpacker, The Explorer, The Traveller , The Rugged, The Dream Chaser, The Globe Trotter, The Mountain Climber, The Nature LoVer, The Travel LoVer, The BMW LoVer…

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However, I have to moderate all future comments in my blog page as some irresponsible people left X-rated spasm in the comments.

I do need your support & will focus more on my personal blog page & my adventurer club.

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Below is a beautifully written letter from a Dad to his son…

Tears did role my cheeks when I read it with my heart…

Hope it does too on you…

——
Dear son…

The day that you see me old and I am already not,
have patience and try to understand me …

If I get dirty when eating…
if I can not dress…
have patience.
Remember the hours I spent teaching it to you.

If, when I speak to you,
I repeat the same things thousand and one times…
do not interrupt me…
listen to me.

When you were small,
I had to read to you thousand and one times the same story until you gets to sleep…

When I do not want to have a shower,
neither shame me nor scold me…

Remember when I had to chase you with thousand excuses I invented,
in order that you wanted to bath…

When you see my ignorance on new technologies…
give me the necessary time and not look at me with your mocking smile…

I taught you how to do so many things…
to eat well, to dress well…
to confront life…

When at some moment I lose the memory or the thread of our conversation…
let me have the necessary time to remember…

and if I cannot do it, do not become nervous…
as the most important thing is not my conversation but surely to be with you and to have you listening to me…

If ever I do not want to eat,
do not force me.
I know well when I need to and when not.

When my tired legs do not allow me walk…
give me your hand…
the same way I did when you gave your first steps.

And when someday I say to you that I do not want to live any more…
hat I want to die…
do not get angry…
some day you will understand…

Try to understand that my age is not lived but survived.

Some day you will discover that, despite my mistakes, I always wanted the best thing for you and that I tried to prepare the way for you…

You must not feel sad, angry or impotent for seeing me near you.

You must be next to me, try to understand me and to help me as I did it when you started living.

Help me to walk…
help me to end my way with love and patience.

I will pay you by a smile and by the immense love I have had always for you.

I love you son…
Your father

10 Things Happy Couples Do…

I am still learning…

Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over.
They know that unless you maintain the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.

Now discover the 10 things that happy couples do:
1. Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love?
Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times.
They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.

2. Cultivate common interests.
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common.
But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy.
If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them.
At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.

3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side.

They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.

4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.

5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something.
If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too.
It all depends on what you want to look for.
Happy couples accentuate the positive.

6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected).
Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.

7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.

8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship.

It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.

9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going.
This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work.
For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.

10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand in hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck.

They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Even if these actions don’t come naturally, happy couples stick with them until they do become a part of their relationship.

They know that it takes 30 days for a change in behaviour to become a habit, and a minimum of six months for a habit to become a way of life and love.

[Dr. Goulston is the co-founder of CouplesCompany.com and the author of The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship (Putnam, 2001).]

I am still learning…
Take care & GOD Bless..
Life is Beautiful..
Just me,
aLi
ali@adventurerali.com
“Probably, the most travelled Malay Individual in the world…”
http://blog.adventurerali.com
www.adventurerali.com
Who is aLi?
The Backpacker, The Explorer, The Traveller , The Rugged, The Dream Chaser, The Globe Trotter, The Mountain Climber, The Nature LoVer, , The Travel LoVer, The BMW LoVer …